Hi... Finally sitting down to read my survey about guys and gals in a relationship and some of the questions that are running in my tiny weeny little brain.

I have started to survey when hubby inform me that we do not need to meet every week. In a view of a girl, I find it very serious, as we use to meet everyday, which we are being force to meet only a few days a week, til we are meeting once a week. Maybe I'm really going round my hubby, but my hubby don't see the case. Have surved my first victim, Mr Alvin Wee, who is Julie's bin bin... heez...

Mr Alvin responded by using "Distance makes a heart fonded". He have question me that wont I feel tired to seeing my boyfriend every week? My respond which is similar to Ms Evelyn and Ms Julie - If we starts to stop meeting our boy means we don't like them at all. Do correct me if I'm wrong, I use to feel that I know guys very well, until I meet hubby, he is something I'm still trying to understand.

Second victim is Mr Alfred, he always quarrell with his gf over the phone. To him, sometimes meeting girlfriend there is something can they can do and cannot do, which being with friends are more casual.

Met Julie earlier, Lester have told her something, being together we have to find our comfortable breakeven point. Then both of us will be together confortably, each and every pair of couples have different level of comfortable level.

Spoken to Hubby earlier on as I'm still doing my survey he will be last and key victim for the survey. He said that girlfriend is always in contact but not friends, but the friends he goes out with are the ones he met everyday at work. I have told him that Eve, me and 2 of my colleagues are going for ice skating session, and I have question will he feel uncomfortable about it. He said that if I can find the right person that is suitable for me then he will let me go and give me my blessing.

Discuss this topic with Julie as Alvin said the same thing to her before, and we find out that the perception of guys and girls are not the same. Girls will fight for their happiness, for example, Julie have tried to sound and hint Alvin about coming back together. I have also told hubby before that I wont give up on him and our relationship if the family and committee don't accept me.

Been thinking about alot of questions that cannot be solve in my head, actually I still cannot get over the time when hubby told me that we cannot make it. He told me not to love him so much, does it means that he is already giving up on me?? Being with me is just letting me be prepare to live alone. With all the uncertainty in head, I really do not know how to work things out. Hubby is one thing I can't let go. He is very important, that's why when I ask him whether will we be together, he told me he can't maintain a relationship and chances are very slim. All these while, I do not know whether it is hint to ask me to carry on with life. He told me that if we really cannot work things out he promise himself that he will be single. Maybe the way I say it is too stressful for a guy, but today I have thought about it, if Hubby and I can't work things well, lesbianism might be a better way out for me.

Although it wont be recognise, but at least I might be happy. Then again, realising that Hubby and I do not have tomorrow are a deadly impact on me. I've been trying to avoid and throw away the idea. I thought I'll cry in the bus or at the bus stop when Hubby left to catch his bus. To my surprise, my tears flow the other way round. Tears don't flow out no matter how I squeeze but my heart is bleeding. I can't believe that I can love a guy to this extend.

Relationship is such a complicated topic, Hubby just msg back, brighten up my day alittle, he says that he will keep our relationship alive. This is all I want to hear, nothing as important as he is willing to give in to this relationship. That means all the things that seems like hint are not hint at all. Guys they can be so cool in a relationship, whereas girls, they can cry and weep and scream and die for watever reason it is.

I have joke to Julie maybe she can know Hubby and consult him about guys more when she have problems with Alvin. You see, its just a small small issue, and it can link up to so many uncertainty and questions. Underline of all from Julie and me, we are damn devoted to our relationship and don't cha try to shoo us away, we are going to stick wit ya like it or not. We will be like elephant glue, bluetac, 3M, chewing gums, scotchtape, clay, cemant, wax, gel, what ever you name it we are in for it. All the best to Alvin and Julie, all the best to Rohit and Lynn... Cheers...